January 2010

Put these two words ‘if only’ together and you have an instant recipe for regret and negativity.

Here’s my ‘If only …. list.

If only my knees were in good shape …

If only I was learning from a Wu Style Tai Chi grand master …

If only I had more time …

If only I was younger …

If only I had a regular training partner …

If only I had talent …

If only I had more hair …

If only …. ad nauseam (pass the smelling salts)

It’s easy to fall in the ‘if only’ trap and it is something that should be avoided if you are to stay positive and get the most from your Tai Chi training.

‘If only’ can demotivate you and lock you into the past and keep you there.

So the next time you catch yourself saying ‘if only’, challenge yourself and focus on where you are and what you can and are willing to do.

That way, you will get the most out of your training. And your life.

Hmm, now if only I can stop saying if only ……….

A few years ago I was training with our instructor and a small group of students in a garage.

We were practising some techniques and my training partner mentioned an idea that I found unusual.

I didn’t give it too much thought at the time but later on I started to use it in my training and found it to be very beneficial.

Although it may sound a bit weird, here is the technique.

1. Imagine there is a little man inside your tan tien.

2. Each time you practice a technique, imagine the little man doing exactly the same thing at the same time as you are, perfectly.

It’s a simple concept and here are the reasons why it works for me.

1. It keeps my focus in the tan tien area – stops my mind from wandering.

2. My movements are more precise.

3. Improves my speed when practising a technique.

When I have reflected on this technique I’ve wondered if points 2 & 3 were part of my imagination or just a placebo effect. But it doesn’t really matter. If the only benefit I get from this concept is that it keeps me focused on my tan tien then it is worthwhile.

Before trying this technique make sure you have mastered the skill you are practising. If you don’t you could be fine tuning a bad habit.

If you decide to have a go, let me know if it works for you or not.

Footnote: re title – no, I was not influenced by Bob Dylan or The Byrds singing ‘Hey Mr Tambourine Man … Oh, hang on, maybe I was?

If Only …..

Hey, Mr. Tan Tien Man

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